Of course I got all mushy at that response. Something about his “I’d like to find someone who also wants to find someone” answer made me feel some type of way. I didn’t respond to his messages but he still felt the need to send me his phone number. He wanted to know what I wanted? That’s different! Okay but for real, we started to have good conversation after that.
I’ve been using it for a couple months now–I haven’t really had conversations with anyone, but I just enjoy some casual swiping while I’m watching TV or waiting for the subway. How do you know already that you’d want to try a relationship with me? I don’t know, dude. …We’ve sent three messages back and forth before I asked this question. “You look really amazing.” “I would love to give a try with you.” Something about his last two messages felt weird to me. The whole “consider a relationship” and “I just don’t want to lead anyone on” felt weird to me. My first impression of this guy? I was annoyed. Like, okay maybe he wants a little bit of everything but legit just doesn’t know what he wants the end game to be. His “honestly, I don’t know” response felt genuine to me. He was pretty engaging in conversation which was nice. My type! But his answer? Yeah, I was disappointed, but honestly not surprised. 27 years old and with a bunch of tattoos. This one actually made me a little nervous because he was pretty cute. I had to give myself a little pep talk like, hey, just swipe on literally any dude. I went to Tinder first, just to get it out of the way. I was going to be super honest on these apps–wholeheartedly myself in every aspect with no reservations.Īre guys on dating apps looking for a casual hookup or a serious relationship? I needed to know. I wanted to match with at least 10 guys, just to see how they all respond to my question. I mean like, my eyes hurt from looking at my phone screen and swiping left and right. So I updated my profile on Hinge and created one on Tinder and connected with a ton of guys from each app. Seriously, if I have to respond to another message with “nothing much, what about you?” one more time, I’m going to lose my mind.
I mean, being in a hookup culture and searching for meaningful interactions with other people can be really hard. Obviously I want to know if I’m wasting my time or not, but I don’t want to ask “alright, what do you want?” within the first five minutes of conversation.īut at the same time, why wouldn’t I ask that? I want to know the answer, don’t I? When I get involved with a guy, I’m usually hesitant to ask questions about what they want. I want to not feel so vulnerable when I talk to them.